Forgiveness

Our popular culture has taught us an incorrect definition of forgiveness. It is not about condonation or approval of past behavior. It’s all about the victim releasing him or herself from the prison of the aftermath of the past and advancing to a higher level of humanity.

Anger at Sudden Loss – My Dear Friend, Craig, Part 4

When someone suddenly dies, there is no time to prepare for their departure from this world. They were in the middle of things – of getting married, of fighting, of raising a child, of starting a business. Those left behind are not only left with the shock of the sudden death, they are also left with the sudden deaths of the ideas and dreams with this person. This makes the aftermath of the sudden loss unusually complex. I recommend seeking a therapist to explore the shock, as well as validating any feelings by tending to them as soon as they arrive. Do not swallow your feelings.